From the week’s reading assignments, I found the topic on men’s sexual health problems and remedies more interesting. What was more thought-provoking is that, just like women, whose sexuality is considered complex, men also experience intricate sexual problems. Men suffering problems like premature ejaculation, erectile disorders, delayed ejaculation, and male hypoactive sexual desire disorders develop low self-esteem and anticipatory anxiety, which obstructs their sexual performance ( Colonnello et al., 2021) . Interestingly, due to men’s socialization to hold back feelings, they often do not recognize anxiety caused by sexual health problems ( Brewer & Tidy, 2017) . Men fail to connect to a loss, grief, end of a relationship or stress occasioned by sexual problems and as a result, they do not communicate their experiences to other. Consequently, the anxiety rapidly progresses to depression. I think that, men with sexual problems may struggle more than women due to stereotypes like “men are always ready for sex” or typecasts like in most men, sex is independent from love.
It was interesting and at the same time, surprising to learn that in men, ejaculation and orgasm are distinct events, and that a man can experience orgasm without ejaculation ( Brewer & Tidy, 2017 and Schnarch, 2013) . While it is expected that pelvic floor exercises can help in ejaculation control, I was surprised to learn that sex toys like vibrators coupled with masturbation could help increase sexual stimulation and train men to tolerate high-levelled stimulation. Personally, I would not recommend masturbation as a remedy for ejaculation control since it is addictive, and would make a man lose sexual interest with a partner, who may not help them achieve the sexual pleasure they experience from masturbation.
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Ventus et al., (2019) explored the effectiveness of vibrator-aided exercises for treatment of premature ejaculation. The researchers established that the intervention significantly reduced the symptoms of premature ejaculation among participants who stimulated the penis with a purpose made vibrator compared to the control group. The research associated premature ejaculation with low confidence and self-esteem, anxiety, interpersonal difficulties, and depression among men (Ventus et al., 2019).
References
Brewer, G., & Tidy, P. (2017). Premature ejaculation: Therapist perspectives. Sexual and Relationship Therapy , 32 (1), 22-35.
Colonnello, E., Ciocca, G., Limoncin, E., Sansone, A., & Jannini, E. A. (2021). Redefining a sexual medicine paradigm: subclinical premature ejaculation as a new taxonomic entity. Nature Reviews Urology , 18 (2), 115-127.
Schnarch, D. (2013). Passionate marriage: Keeping love and intimacy alive in committed relationships . Scribe Publications.
Ventus, D., Gunst, A., Arver, S., Dhejne, C., Öberg, K. G., Zamore-Söderström, E., ... & Jern, P. (2019). Vibrator-assisted start–stop exercises improve premature ejaculation symptoms: a randomized controlled trial. Archives of sexual behavior , 1-15.
